Ask Eternity: It's All About Balance
Monday, August 3, 2009
, Posted by Ashleigh Fitzwilliam, CEO and Founder at 12:50 PM
Dear Eternity,
A relationship is supposed to be centered on giving and taking. So why do I feel like I'm always giving and not receiving on the other end?
- "Jasline"
Dear Jasline,
I can best bet that you feel as if you're always giving and not receiving because this is the actual reality- you may be giving too much of yourself in your current relationship. Balance should always be preserved in a relationship; balanced communication, balanced love, balanced perspectives, and most importantly a balance in sharing. Step back from your present mind frame of giving, giving, giving and seek to unearth the reasons for which you may be over-compensating in the relationship. Are you insecure? Do you feel that giving your partner anything he/she wants will strengthen the romantic tie between you both? When you decide to involve yourself in a relationship with someone, it is absolutely essential that you are equipped with "game" or the ins and outs of how to cope with myriad situations you will inevitably encounter in the relationship. Since you're vision right now seems blurred by romance and passion, allow me to drag you back into the "real world." Never over-extend yourself. You are undoubtedly aware of one of the golden rules of a relationship- it's all about balance. Therefore, you equally know that the measure of your giving should parallel that of your partner's giving. This is not a one-way street, both partners should be working as a nuclear unit to promote and strengthen communal happiness and love. Maybe it's time for you to assess this situation and come to the realization that you can never truly change a person or their habits. You complain now about not receiving equal share in the relationship, and trust me you will be complaining about this same thing in the future. You cannot clean a pig and expect it not to run back in the mud...(food for thought.)
Believe it or not, but at the present moment, your partner may feel that he/she has you tightly wrapped around his/her finger. Detangle yourself asap. I hope this advice helps you Jasline
Sincerely,
Eternity
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